Marriage According to Syaikhona Kholil Bangkalan in the Perspective of Islamic Educational Values

According to Syaikhona Kholil, marriage is a basic need for adult humans, to keep their eyes from seeing what is not lawful and to have offspring of pious children who pray for them. Marriage contains educational values that link marriage theory with existing social reality. His education supports improving the character of Pancasila students in terms of religious values. The implementation of marriage education in educational institutions 'ala Syaikhona Kholil is an ongoing process that aims to improve the skills and character of students in various fields, especially in the fiqh chapter on marriage. This study describes and analyze the thoughts of Syaikhona Kholil Bangkalan in the chapter on marriage in the perspective of Islamic education and its implementation at the Syaikhona Kholil Islamic Boarding School, Nurul Cholil Islamic Boarding School, and the Kaukabudduri Islamic Boarding School, Bangkalan, Madura. This research also has specific objectives, namely (1) to analyze Syaikhona Bangkalan's marriage education which is important to study both in terms of literature review and in terms of implementation. (2) To assert marriage education according to Syaikhona Kholil Bangkalan from the perspective of Islamic educational values. (3) To analyze the implementation of marriage education according to Syaikhona Kholil in the Syaikhona Kholil Islamic boarding schools in Bangkalan.

the bride reaches 16 years of age.Because the age of 16 for women is still classified as a child according to child protection laws.6 Early marriage has the potential to cause problems for married couples, from small problems to even big problems that lead to divorce.Marriage in addition to worship which is highly recommended on the one hand also has the potential for problems.This is because the newly married couple does not have or do not have the provision of knowledge about the science of marriage, it can be likened to someone who rides a motorcycle on a busy road without having vehicle documents, does not have a driver's license and does not wear a helmet.If there is an inspection by the police in the middle of the road or if an accident occurs, it can be fatal.
Marriage quality should be achieved in every married couple, however, this is very contrary to reports which state that the divorce rate in the last five years has increased.
The number of divorce cases in the report of the Central Bureau of Statistics recorded the number of divorces in Indonesia in 2021 reaching 447,743, with details of  110,400 divorces and 337,343 divorces.This figure is higher than the previous two years, namely 291,677 in 2020 and 493,002 in 2019. 7 This fact is of course a problem that must be solved immediately because the divorce rate in Indonesia, even the highest in Asia and Africa, reaches 28 percent of marriage events. 8us, it can be emphasized that the phenomena described above emerge so that a breakthrough is needed in the concept of marriage education.This problem becomes the writer's anxiety because of the ongoing imbalance between marriage education and its application which is in direct contact with the ideals of human rights, especially regarding sexuality.
The main phenomenon now is the spread of marriage because they were pregnant first.Islamic syariat does not limit a certain age to marry. 9However, explicitly, the Shari'a requires that people who are about to marry are truly people who are mentally, physically, and psychologically ready, mature, and understand the meaning of marriage which is part of worship, just like someone who must understand what prayer is for other people.who will perform the prayer service, a pilgrimage for the pilgrimage, and trade transactions for business people?Not having a specific age set in terms of age actually gives freedom for Muslims to adjust the issue depending on the situation, interests, personal conditions, family, and/or local community habits, of course, the physical and spiritual maturity of both parties is a top priority in religion.
There are various opinions regarding the minimum age limit for marriage (underage marriage) among Islamic law experts.The majority of scholars are of the opinion that underage marriages are people who have not reached puberty for men and have not reached menstruation (menstruation) for women.Meanwhile, in state law in Indonesia, underage marriage is defined as a marriage where the man is not yet 19 years old and the woman is not yet 16 years old, thus referring to Article 7 paragraph (1) of Law No.1 1974 concerning Marriage.Underage marriages allegedly have the potential to hamper efforts to build a quality nation.
Many factors influence the occurrence of underage marriages, including the wishes of the child concerned, the wishes of the parents, "accidents" caused by intimate relationships beyond the control of the family, or the views of society that make parents worry that their daughter will be considered an old maid if she does 9 Imron Hakiki and Andi Hartik, Kompas.Com contributors for Malang Regency, wrote in an article that as many as 176 teenagers in Ponorogo applied for dispensation from marriage, of which 125 were approved by the local KUA because they were pregnant.In Malang it is even more horrendous.A total of 1,434 cases during 2022.From that number, 1,393 cases of dispensation were terminated, taken from https://surabaya.kompas.com/read/2023/01/18/170846778/lampaui-ponorogopengajuandispensasi-nikah-dini-in-district-poor-reach .and https://www.detik.com/edu/detikpedia/d-6520471/serba-serbi-ratusan-anak-di-ponorogoasking for-dispensasi-nikah-alasan-til-t respondanpakar on Thursday, 2 February 2023.not marry immediately.It could also be that young marriages occur to meet the needs/lack of financing for the lives of their parents, especially the bride's parents.
By holding a marriage at a young age, it is hoped that their children will receive donations in the form of goods, materials or some money from the role model (husband) which can be used later to cover their daily living expenses within a certain period of time.Phenomena that are relatively the same as this are very easy to find among Madurese people.10Hilmi , a ma'had Ali student at the Nur Cholil Bangkalan Islamic boarding school , put forward several reasons that encourage underage marriages.First, poverty.Second, the education of parents (guardians) is low.Third, the desire of parents who want to quickly pet their grandchildren.Fourth, parents who feel embarrassed if their daughters don't sell quickly, so that when someone applies they are immediately accepted and made easy.Fifth, customs.Sixth, courtship between men and women is 'too' sticky so that it will become the subject of gossip in society, this "forces" their parents to marry them even though they are too young.Seventh, parents worry about promiscuity which is often imitated by young people in Madura today due to the rise of romance soap operas on television . 11 It is important to say that, for the people of Madura, the job or 'economic stability' of the prospective husband is not the main/dominant requirement for the marriage to take place.It is believed that human fortune has been arranged by Allah SWT.This can be seen, for example, from the expressions: "dunnya bisa es sare" (wealth can be earned/earned), "rajeke napa ca'na Prince, ta' ara se ta' odhik" 15 (the fortune is what God Almighty says, so it is impossible died from not getting food).The important thing is to get married first, then find food for your wife (and children). 10Madura is located in the northeast of the island of Java, approximately 7º south of the equator between 112º and 114º east longitude.The island is separated from Java by the Madura Strait, which connects the Java Sea with the Bali Sea.The total area of the area is not less than 5,304 km².The length of the island of Madura is approximately 190 km, and the widest distance from this part of the island is 40 km.Madura has four districts, namely: Bangkalan, Sampang, Pamekasan, and Sumenep.The details of the area of the four districts: Bangkalan 1,260 km², Sampang 1,233 km², Pamekasan 792 km², and Sumenep 1,989 km².The north coast is a long, almost straight line.The south coast on the east has two large bays, sheltered by islands, sandbars, and rocks.To the east lie the Sapudi and Kangean islands which are part of the Madurese administration.The most important islands are; Sapudi, Raas, Caves, Kangean, Sappekken, and Sapanjang, as well as the small group of islands Masalembu, Masakambing, and Keramian which are located between Madura and Kalimantan.
11 Interview with Ali, Santri ma'had Ali who also works as TU of Nur Cholil Islamic Boarding School, 27 Juni20 22.
As the words of the Prophet Muhammad saw: "O young people, whoever among you is able and willing to marry, let him marry.Because marriage can lower the eyes of those who are not lawful to see, and anyone who is unable to protect himself from the temptation of lust.And whoever cannot afford to marry, let him fast, because by fasting his lust for women will decrease. 12e second phenomenon is the increase in divorce cases.A pair of male and female creatures; like doves singing and kissing while building their nests.The flowers in the garden bloom beautifully as if seducing the birds and bees to deliver their seeds to other flowers to be fertilized, even negative and positive atoms are attracted to maintain their existence.13In pairs, men and women become sunatullah as part of His creatures, especially for us humans are partners in marriage.However, we should regret that some of the festive and very happy weddings ended in divorce.
According to records from the Director General of Islamic Community Guidance, Kamarudin Amin, there is a tendency for divorce cases to increase from year to year.14The high rate of divorce needs to be a common thought.Not only the active role of the government and policymakers but also the need to involve all elements of the nation, including scholars and intellectuals.The government must synergize with other parties in implementing programs to strengthen family resilience.
Family is a fundamental entity that is part of the strength of a nation.
Therefore, there needs to be continuous state intervention to protect the family.This is the intellectual property of Nusantara scholars who have contributed to marriage education since the colonial era.Namely, the book As-Silâh fî Bayân An-Nikâh is a munakahat fiqh book written by Syaikhona Kholil Bangkalan .This book contains the laws and provisions for actions according to Islamic law in marriage, marriage sermons, divorce and reconciliation.This book has 24 pages written using Arabic as the main language and Madurese as the translation language.The front cover of this book is white.
After compiling the book As-Silah fi Bayani Nikah, it became a guideline for marriage education for Syaikhona Kholil's students, especially for students who wanted to get married.At that time, the Syaikhona Kholil Islamic boarding school students, whose number was in the tens, used to ask permission from Syaikhona

Chapter Marriage.
Islamic religious education, especially regarding the chapter on marriage, is contained in 4 chapters in the book As-Silâh fî Bayân An-Nikâh , This wedding guide is on pages 1 to 24.The following is an explanation of the meaning of marriage described by Syaikhona Kholil in her book starting from the definition of marriage as follows: The Madurese translation "dining artenna nikah deep language paneka jima' ben akumpul dining artenna nikah delem term paneka nga'kadhen se nyimpen deck kakengenggah ajima' kalaben nngguy inkah (ngabinaghi) otabe tazwih pronunciation (ajudhuwagih). 32meaning: what is the meaning of marriage?the meaning of marriage according to language is having intercourse and gathering while the meaning of marriage according to the term is a marriage contract which causes intercourse to be lawful because it has said the word lafad (marry) or lafad tazwij ( matchmaking).
The When asked questions for the students, about after graduating from the Islamic boarding school, do you want to get married first or work first?They answered in unison by getting married first.Because by getting married it will be easier to find a job and when working there are people who will manage the income from the results of their work so that it doesn't run out to just splurge. 34rriage is a contract or agreement as well as the best way chosen by Allah SWT as a way of educating mankind to build the life of society, nation, and state from the smallest scale, namely the family.Marriage educates the husband to become the head of the household, educates the wife as a housewife, and then the husband and wife are obliged to educate their children as future generations who have noble character within the framework of a sakinah family . 35om a legal marriage, a happy husband and wife will be created, then from this husband and wife relationship they will produce legitimate and pious children .
Islam regulates human relations in marriage so that humans do not live freely or do not have rule Which cause honor his glory is lost in the eyes of fellow human beings, especially in the eyes of Allah SWT. 36Syafi'iyah scholars say that the legal origin of marriage is mubah or permissible, then sunnah, obligatory, makruh to haram. 37rriage today is interpreted as the highest point of the expression of love.
The relationship between humans that will last forever in heaven is a love relationship because of Allah SWT. 38For the sake of love, the heavens and the earth Allah SWT created, and on the basis of which creatures were created, for the sake of love, the whole planet circulates, and with it all movement reaches its goal and continues its beginning and end.With love, all souls achieve their hopes and achieve their dreams and are freed from all that troubles them. 39Christopher Morly says: "If you only had five minutes to live to say something, all the public telephones would be filled with people calling other people to say "I love you". 40ere is no greater awe than the awe of being loved or of loving."Love, first a game, and finally sincerity.It cannot be described but must be experienced in order to be known.Religion does not reject it and the Shari'a does not prohibit it, because the heart is in God's hands, He is the one who turns it over."(Ibn Hazm) There are several tendencies in the diversity of meaning values towards behavior that tend to deny love for fellow human beings which is influenced by how humans understand the essence of the concept of love which is not only vertical in nature.The concept of love has been born and developed in the fields of Sufism and psychology.Love is often interpreted with ambiguous concepts.
Love is a natural feeling that comes from God.It is a noble and pure feeling with a very high purpose.God bestows love to His creatures so they can find the path of light, meaning and spirit of life .42

Chapter of the Marriage Sermon.
Khutbah nikah is one part of the whole series of wedding ceremonies.The law of the sermon in marriage is sunnah, different from the sermon in the Friday prayer, which is obligatory.The explanation regarding the marriage khutbah is described by Syaikhona Kholil in her book as follows.
"Dining artenna sermons in Paneka Dhebu language are arranged in a directional manner.Dining artenna preaching the term paneka dhebu all the arrangements of kelaben are perfect with the praise of Allah ben for the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him." 43(meaning: a sermon according to language is a sentence in the form of prose or poetry arranged correctly, directed.A sermon according to terms is a sentence that is perfectly composed of praises to Allah and the Messenger of Allah invites you to obey Allah and obey the Messenger of Allah, stay away from the temptations of Satan and the temptations of the world, as the word of Allah SWT whoever obeys the Prophet Muhammad, then he has obeyed Allah) (meaning: Who delivered the marriage sermon?Who came to the wedding ceremony to deliver the wedding sermon?Mainly delivered by the marriage wali.It should be refined and serious in delivering the marriage sermon.This is an example of a marriage sermon composed by the Imam scholar Shaykh Hasan Al-Athor) The marriage sermon in the book as-Silah is the essence of the values of marriage education which is packaged in a poetic, practical, concise, and very meaningful way.Take from the marriage sermon composed by Shaykh Hasan Al-Athor teacher from Syaikhona Kholil.In its implementation, the marriage sermon should be delivered by the marriage guardian or it can be performed by the pious person who is present at the marriage ceremony. 44l provisions of marriage according to Islamic law are summarized clearly and in detail in the book As-Silâh fî Bayân An-Nikâh so that each those who are going to get married know exactly what must be prepared and carried out both when going to the wedding and after.

Chapter of Talak (Divorce).
The fiqh provisions regarding divorce/ talak education are contained in the book As-Silâh fî Bayân An-Nikâh on pages 18 to 21.A marriage that at first went well, in the middle of its journey, the dynamics of the relationship between husband and wife and their families can occur.Sometimes a marriage that is built is forced to run aground with divorce.Even if there is a divorce, according to Syaikhona Kholil, the divorce between husband and wife must be in a good way 45 And this is marriage education in the most bitter sense, namely divorce in a polite way.
It can be formulated that ruju' is to restore the legal status of marriage in full after the occurrence of divorce raj'i which was carried out by the ex-husband against his ex-wife during the idddah period, with certain words.With the occurrence of divorce raj'i.then the ex-husband's power over the wife is reduced, but there is still affinity of rights and obligations between the two as long as the wife is in her iddah period, namely the obligation to provide a place to live and guarantee a living, and as a balance, the ex-husband has the priority right to refer to his ex-wife in meaning to return her to her full position as wife, and the statement of ruju' becomes lawful for the ex-husband to interfere with the ex-wife in question, because with this their marital status returns to normal.
The fiqh provisions regarding marriage education for the reference chapter are found in the book As-Silâh fî Bayân An-Nikâh on pages 21 to 23.That is a situation as well as education where there is peace or reconciliation after divorce between husband and wife so that they return to valid marriage law.As lawful husband and wife again.

‫ال‬ ‫ام‬ ‫املطلقة‬ ‫لزوجته‬ ‫الرجوع‬ ‫للرجل‬ ‫جيوز‬ ‫هل‬ ‫؟‬
(meaning: is it permissible for a husband to return " ruju " to his wife?True, it is permissible for a husband who has decreed divorce for ruju ' on his wife if the iddah period of his wife has not expired and the divorce that has been passed is not a divorce that has been repeated three times, and divorce that occurs is not divorce because divorce is sued with ransom) ‫الرجعة؟‬ ‫كان‬ ‫ار‬ ‫كم‬ ‫وصيغة‬ ‫وحمل‬ ‫مرجتع‬ ‫ثَلثة‬ ‫الرجعة‬ ‫كان‬ ‫ار‬ (meaning: how many rukun ruju '? rukun ruju 'there are three; the person who wants to refer ', the woman who is referred to ' and sayings) ‫من‬ ‫وماالصيغة؟‬ ‫احملل‬ ‫ومن‬ ‫املرجتع‬ ‫مرجعة‬ ‫انت‬ ‫او‬ ‫رجعتك‬ ‫له‬ ‫أةاملطلقةوصيغةقو‬ ‫املر‬ ‫هي‬ ‫احملل‬ ‫و‬ ‫املطلق‬ ‫الرجل‬ ‫هو‬ ‫املرجتع‬ (meaning: Who are Murtaji ', Mahal , and Shigoh ?Murtaji 'is a divorced husband, Mahal is a divorced wife, and shigoh is a saying "I refer to you" or "you refer to'") ‫الرجعة؟‬ ‫شروط‬ ‫كم‬ ‫ان‬ ‫هباو‬ ‫دخول‬ ‫بعد‬ ‫يكون‬ ‫ان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ثَلثة‬ ‫دون‬ ‫الطَلق‬ ‫يكون‬ ‫بعةان‬ ‫الرجعةار‬ ‫شروط‬ ‫انقضاءالعدة‬ ‫قبل‬ ‫تكون‬ ‫ان‬ ‫و‬ ‫بعوض‬ ‫الطَلق‬ ‫يكون‬ (meaning: What are the conditions for ruju'?There are four conditions for ruju', firstly divorce is reconciled' not three divorces, secondly ruju' is done after the husband-wife relationship (jima'), thirdly divorce should be with ransom, and should be before the end of the iddah period ) ‫اىل؟‬ ‫الو‬ ‫أةوحضور‬ ‫رضااملر‬ ‫يشرتط‬ ‫هل‬ ‫ادامةالنكاح‬ ‫معَن‬ ‫ِف‬ ‫ِلنه‬ ‫ذلك‬ ‫اليشرتط‬ (meaning: is the willingness of the divorced wife required to reconcile and is it necessary to present a guardian?There is no requirement for the willingness of the wife and the presence of a guardian.Because this is included in the permanence of marriage) ‫يشرت‬ ‫هل‬ ‫االشتشهدهااوال؟‬ ‫ط‬ ‫ذلك‬ ‫االستشهادعلى‬ ‫االوىل‬ ‫العلماءو‬ ‫بْي‬ ‫خَلف‬ ‫ذلك‬ ‫ِف‬ (meaning: is there a requirement for testimony in the ruju' process?In this case there are differences between the scholars and what is more important is that there is testimony in this ruju' process) Refer according to Syaikhona Kholil is the return of the legal status of marriage between husband and wife in the midst of the iddah period after divorce.
Refer can happen If both of them Correct want to return One The same other.
Refer carried out to reconnect harmony in household life and preserve the broken marriage bond between husband and wife. 5656 Abd.Rahman Ghazaly, Fiqh ... , matter.287.

Marriage Education According to Syaikhona Kholil Bangkalan
Why does every creature carry out marriage?One answer is that there is something in every being that plays no small part in this being.It is an instinct that gives birth to sexual urges. 57According to Syaikhona Kholil, we get married in order to have legal intercourse because we have said our consent to marriage. 58is marriage instinct has existed since humans were created in pairs.We can learn from popular phenomena in the real world or cyberspace.Even in cyberspace, porn sites are the sites most visited by netizens.In 2016 an adult site was visited by as many as 64 million visitors in a day and Indonesians won the second most number of accesses after India. 59cording to survey data conducted by the Indonesian Child Protection Commission, out of a sample of 6,000 samples taken, it turned out that 91.58% of children had been exposed to pornography; 6.30% had mild pornography addiction, and 0.07% had severe addiction. 60Furthermore, for the secondary school level, from a sample of 4,500 junior high school students, 97% obtained access to pornographic content.This is the most dominant desire of every living being, to be able to survive and reproduce.Like male birds singing beautifully to attract their partners, male peacocks flick their wings behind their bodies and make the most beautiful motifs possible.This method is an effective tool for males in winning the female's heart.
The male fish dances beautifully to attract the attention of its partner .The male sings, shakes his beautiful feathers, and dances his best in the hope that the female will be attracted.
Such is the instinct of creatures, each of them has a partner and seeks to meet his partner.There seems to be no instinct more profound and powerful than 57 M. Qurays Shihab, Al-Qur'an Bride, Jewel Necklace for My Children , (Jakarta: Lentera Hati, 2007), p. 1.
the compulsion to meet two persons of the opposite sex; male and female, male and female Surah Adh-Dhaariyat 51: 49 There is a law of sex, the "law of twos", which is given by Allah SWT for everything.Thus marriage/partnership is sunnatullah, in the sense of "God's decree that it applies to all creatures." 63 As stated by Syaikhona Kholil, the purpose of educating marriage: It has become a law of nature that every human being since birth in this world always has a tendency to need each other and live together with other creatures in establishing a life. 65Humans are social beings who cannot live alone, because humans are interdependent and need each other, as well as between men and women, they have advantages and disadvantages.To fulfill their strengths and weaknesses, they need a partner.
In a simple context, living together begins with a family (building a household), because family is the most important factor in human life which was originally formed by a man and a woman who have met the requirements (both physically and spiritually) to build household, this is is called marriage 66 (in everyday life, the word nikah or mating is usually used interchangeably).In other words, marriage 67 is a sacred bond between a man man with a woman who is believed to be a bond" ‫غليظا‬ ‫ميثاقا‬ "This bond is the only way to change a case that was originally deemed unlawful to become lawful by someone against the opposite sex in the nuances of mawaddah wa rahmah in order to achieve a sakinah household life. 4ny people hope to get happiness through marriage.There are also some people who think that marriage is an easy but difficult matter and difficult but easy, and is considered the best door to make it easier to get sustenance. 5The point is, that Allah SWT, in His Word promises people who are married will be given easy ways to find sustenance.
More than that, this marriage bond is a major factor in the formation of the next generation of life as caliphs on earth.This is also one of the wisdom in the 67 Derived from the word marriage, meaning: matchmaking of men and women to become husbands wife.WJS Poerwadar Minta, General Indonesian Dictionary , (Jakarta: Balai Pustaka, 1985), 453.Marriage is a very important event in the life of our society.Not only an event concerning those concerned (male men and women), but also concerns parents, siblings and family.
Meaning: Praise be to Allah SWT who has created a fetus from the darkness of the womb and made marriage because it preserves offspring and mankind.And became because of the mixing of tribes and nations.Arrangements for the contract of husband and wife affection in the best rules.regulator of the natural order bound up with this order).In the 2013 curriculum competency development process there were changes in subjects from the previous curriculum (KTSP), the most visible thing was that in the subjects of Islamic religious education they changed to Islamic religious education and morals.Even this subject is the most striking than the other subjects.School is a formal institution with the aim of preparing students and preparing them as quality human resources.So in Islamic religious education subjects and manners are things that play a very important role in developing the morals, attitudes, or morals of students. 82ere are a number of things that serve as the foundation or indicators that are able to see the success of implementing a curriculum including the following: (1) producing graduates who have good morals and good morals; (2) there are qualified, productive, creative, and independent graduates; (3) improving the quality of learning and realizing active, creative, effective, enjoyable learning and increasing the efficiency and effectiveness of the management and utilization of learning resources; (4) increased attention and participation of parents and society. 83e indicators described above can be achieved when educators assess students using descriptive assessments instead of numerical assessments.Because in descriptive assessment, the results of the learning process are more detailed and determine how capable students are in achieving the learning objectives to be achieved.Authentic assessment is needed to measure significantly the learning outcomes of students in the realm of attitudes, skills and knowledge. 84 in these Islamic boarding schools managed by dzuri ya Syaikhona Kholil that traces of teaching the books written by Syaikhona Kholil are felt .There are 20 pesantren which are currently part of the Syaikhona Kholil dzuriyah pesantren network throughout the island of Madura.The two most influential of them are the Syaikhona Kholil Islamic Boarding School in Kademangan and the Nurul Cholil Islamic Boarding School in West Demangan, Bangkalan,Madura. 85 There are thousands of boarding students in these two large Islamic boarding schools, they come from various parts of the city on the island of Madura and outside the island of Madura.Two teaching systems are implemented in these two Islamic boarding schools as well as the Syakhona Kholil dzuriyah Islamic boarding schools in general.First, the sorogan or bandongan method, second, the madrosiyah method, currently at the Syaikhona Kholil Islamic Boarding School and Nurul Kholil Islamic Boarding School, the level of education even reaches the tertiary level as has been implemented at the Syaikhona Kholil High School which

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Lajnah turots 'ilmi Syaikhona Kholil is an official institution for the preservation of books and manuscripts by Syaikhona Kholil Bangkalan, this institution was founded in August 2020 with the aim of changing people's views about Syaikhona Moh.Kholil who is only seen from the point of view of his guardianship, without knowing Syaikhona Moh.Kholil is a person who is an expert in science and scientific work , currently chaired by Lora Usman Hasan Al-Akhyari.Results of an interview with Lora Hasan Usman al-Akhyari on Monday 26 June formal and non-formal educational institutions managed by dzuriyah of the descendants of Syaikhona Kholil make it material in their educational curriculum, they can reprint at the beginning of each school year or as needed.
Kholil when they were about to enter the marriage stage.Santri who asked permission to marry apart from getting prayers from Syaikhona were also taught marriage guidelines through the recitation of the book As-Silah fi Bayani Nikah bil hal by the teacher.29 Currently, the teaching of As-Silah books is still ongoing, especially in around 20 educational institutions and especially the Islamic boarding school 'ala dzuriyah Syaikhona Kholil in Bangkalan.As is the case with the Nur Cholil Kademangan Bangkalan Islamic Boarding School, a modern Islamic boarding school that currently has more than 2,500 students, making marriage education 'a style of the book As-Silah fi Bayani Nikah as the material included in the curriculum in class 3 Aliyah.KH.Zubair Muntashor, the caretaker of the Nurul Kholil Islamic boarding school, who is also Syaikhona Kholil's great-grandson, has a 2022 and retrieved from https://www.syaichona.netaccessed on Monday, September 12, 2022.special time teaching this book, namely during the day at the Nurul Cholil Islamic boarding school's prayer room every year the holy month comes.30The As-Silah fi Bayani Nikah book is an early-generation book that was attributed to Syaikhona Kholil before more books and manuscripts by Syaikhona Kholil Bangkalan were collected by Lajnah tutors ilmi Syaikhona Kholil.The large number of books and manuscripts written by Syaikhona Kholil proves that Syaikhona Kholil is a scholar of Islamic religious knowledge as well as the author of books on Islamic religious knowledge.According to Lora Usman Hasan Al-Akhayari, head of Syaikhona Kholil's scientific turots lajnah, currently, he has collected 32 titles of books and manuscripts by Syaikhona Kholil. 31Broadly speaking, the author has grouped the As-Silah fi Bayani Nikah book into 3 chapters, namely the Marriage Chapter, the Divorce Chapter, and the Ruju' Chapter.
65 R.Wirjono Prodjodikoro, Marriage Law in Indonesia, (Bandung: Sumur, 1984), p. 7. 66 Mohammad Zaid, Twenty-Five Years of Implementing the Marriage Law , (Jakarta: Ministry of Religion of the Republic of Indonesia, Religious Research and Development Agency and Religious Education and Training, 2002), p. 1.

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Figure 3 : Six Dimensions of Pancasila Student Profiles in the Independent Curriculum

Pembahasan Biography of Syaikhona Kholil Bangkalan
Malik Ibrahim, named Abdul Latif, who has a wife who is suspected of being heavily pregnant and has given birth to a healthy baby boy.Seven days after Akiko was born, the baby was named Muhammad Kholil.When he was born, Kiai Abdul Latif lived in Kemayoran Village, Senenan Village, Bangkaran District, Bangkaran Regency, East Java.At that time, Kiai Abdul Latif had become a cleric big and famous in Bangkalan.Ancestors Kiai Abdul Latif is Kiai Ashor Karomah.Kholil life and was raised in an environment cleric.Kyai Mohammed Kholil Bangkalan is descendants Sunan Mountain Teak (1448-1570 M), Wrong a Guardian Songo in Java.So get out blood cleric big Sunan Mountain Teak Which become Wrong One Guardian Songgo (Nine Guardian).Hamim bin KH.Abdul Karim bin KH.Muharram.He was born on the night of Syafar 9 AD 1252 AD, namely Wednesday 25 May 1835 AD on the coast of Bangkalan, to be precise in Lagundih Village, Ujung Plate District, Bangkalan Regency, Wednesday 29 Safar 1952 H or Wednesday 25 May 1835, died on Thursday, 29 Romadhon 1343 H, at the age of around 91 years.23The name of Dozens of book titles include his name accompanied by scientific titles, sometimes indicating the field or subject of origin, or even his name and lineage.how;Priestal'alim'alamah Muhammad Kholil ibn Abdul Lathif Bangkalan, Syaikhu Masyayikh   Madura and Java, 16Imam robbany wal Ghauts shomadany Muhammad Kholil bin Abdul Latif Bangkalany (1934 M/1353 H), 17 Al'alamah Shaykh Muhammad Kholil bin 'Abdul Lathif Bangkalan, 18 al'alim al-'alamah ar-Robany Syaikhona Muhammad Kholil bin Abdul Latif Bangkalan (1343 H), 19 al-Imam al-'alim 'alamah Robani al-Ghouts as-Shomadani Syaikhona Muhammad Kholil bin 'Abdul Latif al-Bangkalan,20 al-'arif Robbani wal Ghauths As-Shomadani Syaikhona Muhammad Kholil bin Abdul Latif Bangkalan.21Thelongest name is found in his book Taqrirot Syaikhona Kholil , namely al-imam al-'alim al-'alamah ar-Robany, al-Ghouts as-Shomadany Syaikhona Muhammad Kholil Bangkalany rohimahullohu ta'ala Syaikhu Masyayikh Madura and Java (1343 H) .22Itmeans; Leaders who are 'pious and experts in divinity, who ask for help and turn to Allah our teacher Muhammad Kholil Bangkalan who is blessed by Allah ta'ala the teacher of the teachers of the land of Madura and the land of Java.KH.Muhammad Kholil was born on Wednesday the 9th of Shafar in 1252 AD, to coincide with the 25th of May 1835 AD, to the couple Kiai Abdul Latif and Nyai Siti Khadijah.His father is a descendant of Sunan Gunung Jati Maulana Kyai Abdul Latief really hopes that his son will become the leader of the people.Just like his ancestors who became pioneers in leading village communities. said Kyai Abdul Latif after calling out the call to prayer in the boy's right ear and the call to prayer in Ikomati's left ear, after Allah made Muhammad Kholil the leader and preacher of Islam and Islamic law for the continuation of the struggle of the saints and scholars in the province of Madura, Java island.Muhammad Kholil comes from a family of scholars.His father, Kiai Abdul Latif, was a relative of Sunan Gunung Jati, one of the Wali Songo, scholars who spread Islam in Java.Abdul Latif is the father of Kyai Hamim, Kiai Hamim Putra Kiai Abdul Karim.Kiai Abdul Karim, son of Kiai Muharram bin Kiai Asra al-Karamah bin Kiai Abdullah bin Sayyid Sulaiman, is the grandson of Sunan Gunung Jati, and his lineage continues to the Prophet Muhammad SAW: (1) Prophet Muhammad SAW.(2) Sayida Fatima Azzaro` RA, (3) Saidina Husain bin Ali RA. (4) Sayyidina 'Ali Zainan 'Abidin; (5) Sayyidina Muhammad Baqir; (6) Sayyidina Ja'fae Shodiq; (7) Sayyidina 'Ali al-Uroidi; (8) Sayyidina Muhammad Thaqib; (9) Sayyidina 'Isa; (10) Sayyidina Ahmad Muhajir; (11) Sayyidina 'Abdullah al-Ardibur; (12) Sayyidina 'Alwi; (13) Sayyidina Muhammad; (14) Sayyidina 'Alwi; (15) Sayyidina Sayyidina 'Ali Kholil Qosim; (16) Sayyidina Muhammad Shahib Mirbad; (17) Sayyidina 'Ali; (18) Sayyidina 'Abdul Malik; (19) Sayyidina 'Abdullah Adhimah Khan; (20) Sayyidina Ahmad Syah Jalal; (21) Maulana Jamaluddin Akbar; (22) Maulana 'Ali Nuruddin; (23) Maulana Umdaduddin 'Abdullah; (24) Syarif Hidayatullah (Sunan Gunung Syaikhona Kholil's mother is Nyai Siti Khadijah.24He is a scholar as well as waliyullah and has a very good scientific record.Because of his reputation in the field of Islamic scholarship, he earned the title "Shaikhona" or our great teacher.The title means an honorary title which shows that KH.Muhammad Kholil is considered to have succeeded brilliantly as an educator in his time.This is evidenced by the more than 40 students who became the founders of Islamic boarding schools throughout Indonesia, starting with KH.Hasyim Asy'ari founded the Tebuireng boarding school until KH.Sayyid Ali Bafaqih the founder of the Syamsul Huda Islamic boarding school on the island of Bali.25Syaikhona Kholil's students were not only the founders and caretakers of Islamic boarding schools, during the colonial period the pesantren network in the archipelago was initiated by Syaikhona Kholil to become the basis of resistance to the invaders and the movement towards independence.26

Marriage in the Book of As-Silah fi Bayani Nikah.
The book As-Silah fi Bayani Nikah was compiled by Syaikhona Kholil to answer the needs of the students at her Islamic boarding school, Muslims in Java-Madura in particular.This book is intended as a provision of knowledge for Syaikhona Kholil's students in pursuing family life.Because it is known that the problem of Islam is not only about worship , but also the problem of muamalah or social relations with fellow human beings.The Book of As-Silâh fî Bayân An-Nikâh is the most complete book of fiqh which outlines the procedures, manners and laws of marriage which were debated Garasai House ofBook, et.2, 2010), p. 146.
in Bangkalan society when Syaikhona Kholil lived.27The writing of the book in this fiqh cluster has proven to be very practical for the santri and the general public in the packaging of popular wedding questions.An explanation of the contents of the book As-Silâh fî Bayân An-Nikâh by Syaikhona Kholil which includes marriage, divorce, and reconciliation which the author will discuss from the perspective of Islamic educational values.Kholil around 1820 -1925 AD and republished by several publications, including; Library/Bookstore An Nabhaniyah Al Kubra Surabaya East Java in 1934 M/1353 H. Second, published by Awad bin Abdullah At-Tamimi in Surabaya in 1979 M/ 1399 H. Currently, this book is under the license of the Syaikhona Kholil book and manuscript preservation institution, namely Lajnah Turots Ilmi Syaikhona Kholil which has been officially established since 2020.28Almost all 27 Mohammed Rifai, KH M. Syaikhona Kholil Bangalore: Biography Short 1820-1923 (Yogyakarta: students are equipped with the book as-Silah fi Bayani Nikah to this day, they are required to have a thin book containing a complete guide to marriage by the Supreme Master Syaikhona Kholil.At the Nur Cholil Islamic Boarding School, Kade Manganese is adjacent to the Syaikhona Kholil Islamic Boarding School at an adjacent address.The Book of As-Silah fi Bayani Nikah is material in the compulsory curriculum for grade 3 Tsanawiyah.Taught in class.The book is the ultimate provision for students who have reached the age of teenagers towards adulthood.33 Jauziyah died in 1350 AD in M. Qurays Shihab, The Bride of the Qur'an Jewel Necklace for My Children , (Jakarta: Lentera Hati, 2007), p. 23.
40M.Qurays Shihab, Bride ..., page 23. ‫و‬ Meaning: Glory be to Allah who has created everything in pairs--male and female-both in the world of plants, themselves, and things that are unknown to humans (1).(1)Theword "min" in this verse functions as an explanatory.Namely, Allah has created males and females in all of His creatures, whether in the form of plants, animals, humans and other living things that are invisible and not yet known to humans.62 meaning: what is the purpose of marriage?The purpose of marriage is to seek happiness from a beautiful wife who has good behavior, keeps her eyes from seeing what is not lawful and produces offspring of pious children who pray). 6461 Soenarjo, Al-Qur'an and its Translation, Waqf from Khodim al-Haromain asy-Syarifain, ( Jakarta : Ministry of Religion of the Republic of Indonesia , 1971 ), p. 862 .